“blogher backlash.”

08/06/2005 By

you have got to be fucking kidding me.

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  • http://www.supamb.com/supafine supa

    dang, woman.

  • http://workerbeesblog.blogspot.com Elisa Camahort

    Sweetney: I decided to spin that silly article right around:
    http://workerbeesblog.blogspot.com/2005/08/blogher-backlash-no-way-blogher.html
    Enjoy.

  • http://www.karianna.us Kari

    Wow. What’s it like to be famous in the midst of all that?
    Unbelievable. Truly.
    Either the women are being too “empowered” (keep those chicks down!) or they are being too “exclusive.” I definitely didn’t view the conference as being a bunch of women whining that they are “victims.”
    I went to the conference because it had topics about which I was interested, not because I felt that I couldn’t attend some other type of conference.
    The majority of my daily reads are women, so it naturally follows that I would be interested in topics by and for women.

  • andrea

    Huh. Actually, I am not surprised. Especially when considering the “cut my balls off” comment.

  • http://www.crazyus.com Crazy Us

    You are so Big Time! Now if you only had balls to cut off [wink].

  • http://overdressedconfessions.blogspot.com/ kalisah

    well, it doesn’t surprise me really. I’ve been reading so much about BlogHer and any time something becomes that big, there’s going to be some asshole thinking he’s the voice of reason.

  • http://www.sweetney.com sweetney

    to reiterate something i just emailed w/r/t this to some friends: the whole things is irritating. and i like how my quote, taken out of context, makes me sound like some kind of moon-goddess-worshipping, patcholi-oil-slathered defender of Wymyn (that’s with a DOUBLE Y, patriarchial oppressors!). i wasn’t “responding” to anything to begin with of course. i feel so (sniff)…used.
    i’m trying to decide if i should update my creative commons license to say something to the effect that people need to get approval before using content… at least then i’d have a shot at deciding how my words are used.
    and i wish i’d sworn more in those couple of sentences, dammit.

  • http://commutedsentences.blogspot.com angela

    I’m guessing that if I wrote down even one of the many things that immediately came to mind upon reading that, some set of balls somewhere in the world would immediately shrivel up under the power I have, as a woman, to castrate men merely by thinking anything that could be construed as feminist (er, I mean “OMGZ GENDER SEPARATISM!!!”), let alone saying it out loud to other women. Poor mens.

  • http://Sarahandthegoonsquad.blogspot.com Sarah

    Obviously, we were taken out of context and actually worship you people.

  • http://www.womangirlblog.motime.com Lisa

    Ok, I’m just going to throw this out there. Reading the popular blogs (Deuce, suburban bliss, etc)and seeing what a good time you all had might have made people jealous. I know it did me at first, for about 3 seconds. Because had I been there, I wouldn’t have been in that group. I would have felt left out, excluding from the in crowd. But 3 seconds went by, I reminded myself I’m not in jr. high any more.And it certainly wouldn’t have been the ‘popular crowds’ fault that I would have felt that way. I really do think people are jealous. I just enjoy reading the blogs. I don’t want to analyze why.

  • http://www.hinkybox.com/ hink

    Blog Her? Oh! Man.
    I though it was like a blogger conference in Holland or something — when all along it was a non-exclusive-but-gender-specific pun. I gotta start paying more attention.

  • http://letterb.typepad.com LetterB

    Not to go off topic but speaking of wymyn – when i was but a wee freshman in college I was talking to a girl in my first women’s studies class and she said to me “Yeah, I have started to spell women with a ‘y’.” I looked at her, brows furrowed, and said “Yoman?”
    Backlashes are an inevitable social dynamic. It’s like a ripple effect. (Maybe we should start calling them backsplashes). I really enjoyed all the stories and photos of Blogher and felt you all did a fabulous job representing for all of us motherbloggers that couldn’t be there.

  • http://www.sweetney.com sweetney

    i just got done reading some other blogher ladies comments, and read some shit about us being the “mean girls.” this pisses me off beyond reason.
    why? because, seriously, i have fucking SCARS from being subject to that kind of bullying shit from high school (and before high school. and after high school.). because i am so far from being that, or from being capable of being a part of that, that it CHAFES AT MY BEING TO EVEN CONTEMPLATE IT. anyone who really knows me knows this. i live in irrational fear that one day M_ will grow up and somehow morph into a popular “mean girl”-type, because that is my worst-worst-worst-case scenario as a parent.
    that’s all i have to say, i guess.
    well, except this: GAH.

  • http://commutedsentences.blogspot.com angela

    anyone who really knows me knows this.
    Cosign. You are absolutely not that, at all. (And if you were, this scarred mean-girl-survivor wouldn’t love you so dearly.) People see what they want to see sometimes, and it’s so frustrating.

  • http://overdressedconfessions.blogspot.com/ kalisah

    I don’t think anyone really thinks that about you. I think the whole “mean girls” assumption is meant to describe a group that one can not be a part of. It’s a generalization but I don’t think it’s necessarily meant to include mean behaviors that are not typical of you or the others of the “in crowd.”

  • http://www.mydogharriet.blogspot.com Meghan

    You know, I notice in a lot of this that there is no grey area given to women’s events like this. Women are either Exculsionary or disenfranchised… Victims or perpetrators.. blah blah blah. Yeah, I admit I am beginning to get sick of reading about the slumber party I was not invited to. Parts of it DID feel a little bit like high school. When I start to feel that “BUT I wasn’t invited!!!” anxiety, I tend to look within myself and my own insecurities instead of pointing figers and calling people elitist. I think the conference hit a nerve with some people. If they were a tad more mature maybe they would look within themselves before pointing fingers too.