Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love

01/24/2012

I stumbled on this today, and it got me thinking.

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And what I thought was: what if we all actually believed ourselves worthy of this kind of life, of this kind of love? What if each of us believed we were honestly deserving of the truly extraordinary and nothing less? What then? (The cynical side of me says: well, then marriages/relationships implode left and right, until the wheat is separated from the chaff? And then we each go on and find the lives and loves we deserve? And would that be such a bad thing?)

Shouldn’t we believe all of that already, though? Shouldn’t we believe ourselves worthy, and demand the extraordinary from our lives, our loves? Why don’t we?

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  • http://twitter.com/lisrock lisrock

    I do believe it, and I do think I”m worthy, and THAT is why I’m single.

  • http://twitter.com/xtremeparnthood Sunday Stilwell

    This reminds me a lot of a poster I saw once and immediately loved. It reminds me of the raw-ness of love. Of how it can be both brutal, humorous, and beautiful all rolled into one lifetime…or in this case, two.

    I WOULD DATE YOU SO HARD, AND THEN MARRY THE SHIT OUT OF YOU.
    THEN RAISE THE FUCK OUT OF OUR KIDS!
    AND GIVE YOU ALL THE MOTHERFUCKING LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU’D EVER FUCKING NEED.
    AND PAY THE HELL OUT OF THAT FUCKING MORTGAGE.
    AND THEN WHEN THE GUTTERS ARE CLOGGED I’LL GET UP THAT FUCKING LADDER AND CLEAN THAT SHIT UP WHILE YOU STAND BY THE KITCHEN WINDOW COMICALLY JUDGING MY WORK.
    AND THEN WE CAN VACUUM THE FUCK OUT OF OUR CARPET SO HARD THAT WE’LL HAVE TO GET A NEW ONE.
    WE’LL WASH OUR CLOTHES SO GODDAMN FUCKING HARD. FORGET NO RINSE, WE’LL USE HIGH FUCKING SPEED.
    BUY A FUCKING MINIVAN TO STUFF OUR BEAUTIFUL FUCKING BABIES INTO IT AND DRIVE THE FUCK OUT OF IT.
    THEN WE CAN GO SOME FUCKING PARENT-TEACHER MEETINGS AND MEET THE FUCK OUT OF OUR KID’S TEACHER. THEN JUDGE THE SHIT OF HER IN THE CAR.
    AND WE CAN THEN PILE ALL THE CHILDREN IN THE FUCKING MINIVAN AND GO TO THE STORE AND SHOP FOR GROCERIES SO HARD THAT WE ACTUALLY HAVE TO MAKE MORE THAN TWO TRIPS TO GET ALL THAT SHIT INSIDE THE HOUSE.
    AND THEN COOK THE FUCK OUT OF OUR KITCHEN UNTIL WE HAVE NO FOOD LEFT AND WE FEAST ON THAT SHIT FOR FUCKING DAYS.
    I WILL EAT THE FUCK OUT OF YOUR HOMEMADE COOKIES.
    THEN WASH THE SHIT OUT ON THE DISHES TOGETHER UNTIL OUR ENTIRE HANDS GET FUCKING PRUNEY.
    WE’LL WATCH OUR KIDS FUCKING GRADUATE AND MOTHER FUCKING TEAR UP LIKE THE BADASS BOSSES WE FUCKING ARE.
    WE WILL GROW SO DAMN OLD TOGETHER, WE WILL LOOK LIKE FUCKING RAISINS.
    I WILL FUCKING TELL YOU EVERY SINGLE SECOND HOW MUCH I FUCKING LOVE YOU.
    HOLDING EACH OTHER’S FUCKING HANDS SO HARD THAT WE SHIT OUR SELVES.
    UNTIL WE DIE AND ROT AS MOTHERFUCKING CORPSES TOGETHER.
    TIL DEATH DO US FUCKIN PART.
    HAPPILY EVER FUCKING AFTER.

    • http://www.sweetney.com Sweetney

      I WOULD LIKE TO FUCKING LIKE THIS HARDER.

    • Anonymous

      Greatest comment of all time. I’m cutting and pasting the fuck out of this.

      OF ALL TIME.

      • http://twitter.com/xtremeparnthood Sunday Stilwell

        I have it on my fridge! Because when I met my husband (2nd times the charm for me) we both saw it and fell in love with it.

  • maggie wilkin

    The thing is that even with a great relationship no love is mad, passionate and extraordinary all the time. Love can ebb and flow and weathering some storms together can make it more extraordinary and passionate than ever on the other side. I have been married for 16 years and we have had our share of ups and downs but stuck together through thick and thin and things are better than ever now. I have the hots for him again! Our love is extraordinary to me because we have loved each other for so long and are able to share this life and watch our kids grow up together.

  • http://twitter.com/MajorBedhead MajorBedhead

    What magie wilkin said. That’s not to say I wouldn’t love to experience that, but I don’t think it’s a permanent thing, to be in mad, passionate love all the time.

    Also? I kind of want to put commas in that thing. It’s bugging me.

    • http://www.sweetney.com Sweetney

      I feel that. I mean, MAD PASSIONATE EXTRAORDINARY (ALL CAPS!) 24/7, as in the movies, would get exhausting after a while. But I think beyond those moments of pure mad passion, the *extraordinary* bit is what sticks to my ribs in this. That even as relationships age, we should expect our feelings, and the love, to be and remain extraordinary. For that passion to still be there. Is that fair to expect? Does everyone believe that, expect that, demand that? Or do we settle for less because we believe that’s all we CAN expect, or deserve?

    • http://www.sweetney.com Sweetney

      Oh and PS: PUNCTUATION NERD!!! (I heart punctuation nerds, it’s okay :))

  • http://twitter.com/chemgk Steph T.

    I, like Lisrock, also believe this and this is why I am still single. I think I deserve to be loved Madly, Passionately, Extraordinarily. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that all relationships struggle and that there are ebbs and flows and not everyday do you LIKE each other…but in the end, what should hold that all together is LOVE.

  • snozma

    I just worry about people’s level of self deception. If it is not mad, passionate and extraordinary sometimes it’s you. (Sometimes.)

    There are some people who I want them to tattoo this on their chests and other people I don’t want to even CONSIDER this. The people who need to hear it will probably never hear and there are other people who will just use this idea to wreck their lives.

    Damn, I’m a cynic for sure. But a happily married cynic.

    • http://www.sweetney.com Sweetney

      snozma, I completely get every word of what you said and agree entirely. Though I’m not sure I could break it down any better than you did :)